it is never too late..
There is a plethora of divorce these days,in couples who are in their middle age,whose marriages are not less than twenty or more years old.This is a generation which was born in the 60s and 70s, a generation which is considered to be the last bearer of age old ethics,of traditional family values. Then how come they are breaking the shackles?Daring to negate the fear of "log kya kahenge" syndrome.
I too, belong to this generation.We grew up watching our parents trying to keep their marriage intact,no matter what happened.As kids,it was really soothing,when our parents made up after their fights.Maybe the young age,the vulnerability , made us unable to see that one of the two must have given in,one of them must have compromised to keep the marriage going.
But was it right?Is compromising being escapist?.These questions keep popping up in my mind now and then. Is it right to keep the family intact at the cost of giving up one's individuality?.I have a successful marriage of 28 years,pretty happy,but, still it would be being dishonest, if, i say that i never felt claustrophobic in my marriage.There came many moments,where,unwillingly I had to give in, just to prevent a situation turning volatile.
Its not that only the wife feels like this,husbands too feel tied up in situations.It is fine till the issues are trivial,their effects lasting for a brief period,but, is it wise to continue ,if the marriage is kept, just for the sake of keeping.The most common and lame excuse given for keeping a marriage is,we have to be together for the children.But is it right to bring up your child in an environment which is not nurturing rather hindering their growth.Actually people build up excuses, to hide their fear of moving out of their comfort zone.
But thankfully things are changing.People are learning to respect themselves.Even after completing silver or even golden anniversaries,couples find the courage to move out of an incomplete, taxing marriage.The desire to live life is on an all time high rise.The age barrier has been broken.We can start living life whenever we want to, irrespective of which stage of life we are in.Even children,who have been witnesses to the unhappy marriages of their parents,encourage their parents to go ahead with their respective lives separately, if it brings peace and happiness to them.
This is not a family breaking trend,it is rather a new beginning of the making of satisfied, fully lived, happy human beings.
Isn't these lines of an old classic hindi song, "woh afsaana jise kisi anjaam tak laana na ho mumkin,usey ek khoobsoorat mod de ke chodhna accha" give the best solution and motivation to move out of an unpleasant,suffocating relationship.
I too, belong to this generation.We grew up watching our parents trying to keep their marriage intact,no matter what happened.As kids,it was really soothing,when our parents made up after their fights.Maybe the young age,the vulnerability , made us unable to see that one of the two must have given in,one of them must have compromised to keep the marriage going.
But was it right?Is compromising being escapist?.These questions keep popping up in my mind now and then. Is it right to keep the family intact at the cost of giving up one's individuality?.I have a successful marriage of 28 years,pretty happy,but, still it would be being dishonest, if, i say that i never felt claustrophobic in my marriage.There came many moments,where,unwillingly I had to give in, just to prevent a situation turning volatile.
Its not that only the wife feels like this,husbands too feel tied up in situations.It is fine till the issues are trivial,their effects lasting for a brief period,but, is it wise to continue ,if the marriage is kept, just for the sake of keeping.The most common and lame excuse given for keeping a marriage is,we have to be together for the children.But is it right to bring up your child in an environment which is not nurturing rather hindering their growth.Actually people build up excuses, to hide their fear of moving out of their comfort zone.
But thankfully things are changing.People are learning to respect themselves.Even after completing silver or even golden anniversaries,couples find the courage to move out of an incomplete, taxing marriage.The desire to live life is on an all time high rise.The age barrier has been broken.We can start living life whenever we want to, irrespective of which stage of life we are in.Even children,who have been witnesses to the unhappy marriages of their parents,encourage their parents to go ahead with their respective lives separately, if it brings peace and happiness to them.
This is not a family breaking trend,it is rather a new beginning of the making of satisfied, fully lived, happy human beings.
Isn't these lines of an old classic hindi song, "woh afsaana jise kisi anjaam tak laana na ho mumkin,usey ek khoobsoorat mod de ke chodhna accha" give the best solution and motivation to move out of an unpleasant,suffocating relationship.
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